self-love is the act of taking care of yourself. it includes things like putting yourself first, making sure that you're happy and healthy, and giving yourself time to relax and enjoy life. it's also about being able to graciously accept compliments from others without feeling guilty or defensive.
if you don't love yourself, it can be difficult to attract someone who does. the law of attraction states that we attract what we give out into the world; this includes people as well as other aspects of life such as career opportunities or financial abundance. if you want healthy romantic relationships but have not been able to attract them in the past, self-love might be an important factor standing in your way.
you are the product of your thoughts.
in a nutshell, the law of attraction states that you attract people and situations into your life based on what's happening inside of you. when you're happy and positive, good things come to you. when you're sad or angry, bad things happen. this happens because energy attracts energy—you are the product of your thoughts.
think about how this relates to romantic relationships: if we don't love ourselves before we meet someone, how can we expect them to love us when they enter our lives? if we don't care for ourselves enough to make time for mental health care or self-care (like exercise), then why should another person want to do it? self-love also means respecting yourself enough and not settling for less than what makes sense for yourself in terms of career goals, friendships, and relationships with family members.
this principle extends to all areas of life, including relationships.
the more you love yourself, the more you can love someone else. the same principle applies to your relationship with God. the more you love yourself, the more you can love God and thus experience his perfect love for you—and vice versa!
the truth is: if we do not fully embrace our value and worthiness as divine creations of God, then we cannot embrace the value and worthiness of others in their totality. if I believe that I am not worthy enough to be loved by anyone other than myself (or my parents), then how could I possibly believe that someone else who has never met me before would ever want anything from me? and if there’s no possibility of a reciprocal exchange between two people when one person does absolutely nothing for another completely random person out on a street corner somewhere—then how can there be any meaningful connection between two human beings at all?
if you want to attract a healthy, supportive relationship, you must first be that yourself.
for your relationships to be healthy and supportive, you must first be that yourself. the more you love and take care of yourself—and the more you understand what it means to nurture a relationship with someone else—the better able you are to attract a like-minded partner into your life.
if you want to attract a healthy, supportive relationship, then you must be healthy and supportive of yourself. and if there are areas in which we could all stand for improvement (romantic relationships included), then there are probably some ways that self-love can benefit us here too.
sure enough: if we want our romantic relationships to thrive, being good partners has everything to do with how well we treat ourselves on an individual level; research shows that people who have high levels of self-compassion tend to have stronger romantic relationships than those who don’t.*
take on a self-love practice.
self-love is a practice. the more you practice it, the easier it gets. and when you're practicing self-love, you can't help but attract people who love you too.
when I first started to cultivate my relationship with myself (AKA self-love), it wasn't easy. the more work I put in, however, the easier it became. before long I was able to feel and communicate love for myself without even trying! this made me more confident and resilient so that when challenges came up in my life—and they always do—I had the tools necessary to handle them gracefully and effectively instead of falling apart at the seams as I used to before learning how to nurture my inner child as well as how others treat us matters so much because other people are mirrors for who we see ourselves becoming: if someone treats us badly then our brains will find ways around this by creating excuses or rationalizations for why someone else's behavior isn't their fault; however if we treat ourselves with kindness then our brains will find reasons why someone else's behavior isn't their fault either
attracting healthy love starts with changing unhealthy programming that is standing in the way of love.
when you love yourself, you can attract healthy love into your life. the key is to change the unhealthy programming that's standing in the way of loving yourself.
you can do this by taking responsibility for your happiness, instead of waiting for someone else to make you happy; by learning to feel good about yourself and your life no matter what circumstances happen around you; and by developing a strong sense of self-worth and self-respect.
when we can love ourselves unconditionally—who we are as people—we permit ourselves to be happy with who we are right now. and when we're happy with who we are right now, it becomes easier for others to accept us just as they are too!
the law of attraction which states that we attract into our lives what we give out into the world applies to relationships as well as other aspects of life.
the law of attraction which states that we attract into our lives what we give out into the world applies to relationships as well as other aspects of life. self-love is the key to attracting healthy relationships, and if you want to attract a healthy, supportive relationship, you must first be that yourself.
loving yourself attracts people who love you
when you love yourself, you're attracting the right people into your life. self-love is the foundation for all relationships, romantic or otherwise. it’s not selfish; it's a practice that helps us become our best selves so we can share our lives with others.
self-love isn't about being a narcissist; it's about treating yourself with dignity and respect by having healthy boundaries and taking care of yourself first so you can be there for others in return.
in the end, it's all about you. if you want a healthy relationship, start by taking care of yourself. and if you want others to love and respect you, then be sure to give that same love and respect back to yourself first!
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